If the world of bondage is intimidating, scary or just plain alien to you then I’m here to help out with this guide. I know that when I was looking to test the waters I had to do a bit of reading first as I just had no idea where to start. I’ve picked out a few key categories of bondage tools to talk about in this guide to cover the basics and starting points. We’ll discuss some of the other items like clamps, electrosex toys and chastity devices in a future guide. For now, let’s get learning about the most known and widely experimented with bondage basics!
Blindfold; A lot of people start their bondage experience with a blindfold. Why? They’re simple, non-intimidating and come in a ton of different patterns, colours and styles. You can begin with a sleep style mask like the Lovehoney Oh Satin Blindfold and work up to blackout styles that prevent all light getting through like the Fetish Fantasy Blinder. Blindfolds work by restricting the wearers eyesight in order to heighten the other senses. When our sight is restricted, we rely on our other senses which means that any smells, sounds, tastes or physical contact become enhanced. They also build anticipation as the wearer tries to interpret what their partner/s are going to do next.
Mask; Not to be confused with a blindfold, masks are other types of head-gear worn for different aspects of bondage play. A mask is usually a decorative facial accessory designed to transform the appearance or conceal the identity of the wearer. Think back to Fifty Shades Darker and the masked ball that Christian and Ana attend. You can recreate this idea with the official masks. Alternatively, you can use masks for role play. Ever wanted to be Catwoman? Try pairing this Latex Cat Mask with a catsuit to get the look.
Gag; Designed to muffle the voice of the wearer and/or prevent them from speaking. As the wearer can’t speak, or can’t be heard clearly, they have to become more creative with communication. These should always be used in accordance with a safe signal so the partner knows when play must conclude or pause. These are worn by submissive parties and come in different styles and sizes. The most common is a ball gag and plenty of these have small holes through them so the wearer can breathe. Other types of gags include bits, hooks, rings and spiders. More on those in a future guide.
Wrist and Ankle Restraints; When I mention these to friends, the first thing they envision are metal cuffs that are used by law enforcement. Whilst these are available to purchase from most retailers, I wouldn’t recommend them to a beginner. There are a ton of safer and more comfortable options on the market. You can find these restraints in satin, suede, faux leather, real leather, faux fur and even silicone. These cuffs will often have a chain or clip between them which can detach to be clipped to something else. Wrist and/or ankle restraints are used to secure the limbs to prevent the wearer from moving from a placed position.
Collar and Lead; When these items are used together, they are used to control the wearer by moving them using the lead. If you’re a puppy player, you might want to use a collar and lead combination to go for walks and divulge your inner pup. If you’re a submissive, you may be asked or want to wear a collar to symbolize ownership. These are becoming increasingly popular in the mainstream community for fashion purposes, but in the bondage world, these generally mean a person is taken. Many of these collars feature lockable buckles which prevent removal by the wearer and enhance the feeling of being submissive and owned.
Feather Tickler; It’s pretty much what it sounds like. A bunch of feathers attached to some sort of handle that is designed to tickle and tease the skin. The feeling of a feather tickler being traced across the skin excites the nerve endings, usually resulting in goosebumps or a tingly sensation, making you temporarily more sensitive and response to touch. These are often used during foreplay to enhance sensation and anticipation. They can also be used during tease, torture and denial situations.
Spanking Paddle; A flat piece of equipment, usually with a handle, that is used in the same way as a hand. Think of it as an extension of your body. Paddles come in varied textures to cause different sensations. An example of this is a dual sided paddle. One side may be satin to get the giver and the receiver used to the feel of a paddle, then the other side could be faux leather to provide a bit of a sharper sensation. Different materials and textures can amplify or tone down the impact, so be selective and go for paddles that suit your experience level.
Flogger; An implement that have several surfaces (known as fronds) which all hit the skin at roughly the same time. This spreads the force of the hit over a larger surface area. It’s a great starting implement as it produces less pain than a crop or whip. They can also be doubled as ticklers. Tease your partner by running the fronds up and down/over their skin during foreplay to get their senses heightened and their pulse racing. Floggers are available in a variety of materials and I’d suggest starting with something soft such as suede or faux leather.