Earlier in the year I tried the Be Charming Lay On Vibrator from Orion’s Be Sassy collection and it wasn’t the best. Not all sex toys are suited to everyone, which is understandable, so I didn’t want to rule out the rest of the range based on that one experience as these products are silicone, affordable and well made which makes them great candidates to recommend to others. I asked Orion if they would be willing to let me take another chance on the collection and they kindly obliged, sending over the Be Unique and the Be Tender. This one is a lay on vibrator like the original toy I reviewed but it has a different shape so I hoped that would make me feel differently about it. Was that the case or did I encounter deja vu?
As before, I cannot fault the presentation. It’s plain with no tacky images to be found. The box shows a front and back view of the product and also offers up a couple of informational snippets. The sides just read basic descriptions in a host of languages regarding the key features. The box opens via a magnetic clip to reveal the vibrator behind a viewing screen, which is a nice touch, and it comes with a generic user guide and charging cable.
Unlike the Be Unique, the Be Tender is rechargeable. It has a port on the back for the jack to be placed into and this is covered via a moveable flap of silicone. The other end of the cable goes into a USB connector. The lights on the control panel will flash whilst the charging is taking place and go steady once complete. The box estimates a two-hour charge period with up to an hour of use depending on the settings being used.
Created from silicone which has a polyurethane coating and a small amount of plastic, there are no concerns regarding body-safety. It’s phthalate free, odourless and non-toxic amongst other great things. It’s also hypoallergenic which means that it can be properly cleaned between uses and won’t hoard bacteria. The materials feel high-quality and the vibrator itself appears to have been put together well. It doesn’t have any visible seams or rough edges whatsoever and aesthetically it is pleasant to look at. The resistance to the silicone is minimal as it’s rather smooth but a coating of water based lubricant around the areas that come into contact with the clitoris will remove that.
A slight gripe I have with this range is that neither the box, manual or website specifies whether the products are waterproof. The guide does indicate that cleaning should be done with soap and water so I assume that it is but it’s not completely clear. I have had no problems rinsing but I would exercise caution to others and advise making sure the charging port is completely covered so no water gets into that area.
Operating the Be Tender could not be simpler as it only has two buttons. A power button which turns the device on and off and a function button that scrolls through the available modes. The control panel lights up when in use and flashes in accordance with the setting being used. It has eight modes in total with three of them being constant waves of vibration and the remaining five being patterns. I haven’t used those as I don’t enjoy them and prefer constant stimulation.
So how did we get along? Well I didn’t find myself feeling much stimulation when holding the toy as it was probably designed to be held. If I positioned the ears around the clitoral hood and buried the nose of the rabbit into it then I couldn’t get as much pressure as I needed and felt numbed by the vibrations faster. The motor of the Be Tender is as buzzy as the last vibrator I tried from the range but it seems to have a better frequency to it which means it’s not unbearable. It still becomes numbing if left on an exposed area for longer than a few moments but I discovered a work around as I experimented.
I decided to use it with a layer of fabric between us, be that a thin bed sheet or my underwear, as it felt much better. It dampened the power slightly but I felt that the pros outweighed that con on this occasion. It meant I was able to place the vibrator on that area, without it touching my skin, prolonging the time I could use it for comfortably. The motor is rather powerful so if it wasn’t for the buzzing I’d orgasm very quickly but as the sensations don’t travel below the surface level of the clitoris it takes a little longer. When there’s fabric between us I can get a refreshing climax in before the numbing sensation gets grip and takes over.
Placement wise, I use it with the ears downwards tickling the vulva and the back of the toy pushed up against the clitoris. It may not be the way it was designed to be used but it works for me better than the ‘correct’ method.
Sometimes playing around with positioning can make all the difference in whether a toy can be suitable to me or not so I don’t like to leave options unexplored. The method I used allowed me to push the back of the toy into the area that I wanted the stimulation focused on and I could comfortably lay on it and grind my body against it to get the desired pressure and sensation.
I’m not exactly sure why I’ve always enjoyed lay-on vibrators or toys that I can use whilst laying on my stomach but I seem to get my strongest orgasms with my head buried into a pillow. I feel more in control this way for some reason and more likely to relax and let myself get lost in the moment. I assume that it’s linked in with the way I used to masturbate in my pre sex toy era (grinding against something placed underneath me) as that would make a lot of sense. The Be Tender suits those circumstances perfectly so would be great for people who masturbate similarly to me or people who have mobility issues and need the vibrator to stay in place to do most of the work.
Overall, I would have to be completely honest and say that this is better than the one I tried previously. I didn’t hate this encounter and found ways to make it work for me. I would not be able to use it successfully without some form of fabric barrier between us due to the buzzing of the motor but this makes an interesting change from my typical unclothed masturbation habits. The other thing that isn’t perfect about it is the noise levels. It’s unfortunately not the quietest tool in my box and I couldn’t use it with others in the house unless I had background noise to drown it out. Outside of those two things, the Be Tender is a definite improvement on the last lay-on vibe and has definitely made me feel more optimistic and positive about the rest of the Be Sassy collection.
We received this product free of charge in return for our honest review. This is no way changes our opinion on the item. All views are our own and based on our experiences. No affiliate links have been used within this post.