If you go to my sex essentials page, you’ll notice I’ve tried five different lubes by Durex. I’ve given the brand a good go, but they just don’t do it for me. I don’t use condoms regularly, but when I do, I always opt for Durex, they are good at condoms, that’s definitely their niche, but the lubes could be better.
If I’m honest, until I started ordering sex toys and talking within the adult community, I didn’t even know there was such a thing as a ‘bad‘ lubricant. I just assumed any lube was good, because you know, it was lube and it did the job. Looking back, I can’t believe how naive I was, but it’s not surprising considering lubricant isn’t spoken about much outside of the sexual twittersphere, blogs and forums. Sure I knew it existed and I used it, but it was a quick impulse buy from Amazon or the shelf of my local supermarket. I didn’t spend time deciding what to get, I just went for the well-known brand options in whatever flavour or kind looked alright.
I think I never took any notice because it had been regimented in my mind as a teen that using lubricant was something to be embarrassed about. It was something you only used if your partner couldn’t get you wet enough or you didn’t like performing oral sex without some extra flavour. It was never even mentioned to me that flavoured lube wasn’t just for aiding blowjobs. During my sex education lessons, we were made to feel as if using lubricant was a bad thing & if we needed to use it, then there must be something wrong with us. My sex education was clearly shit and non-existent. We were never told the purpose of lubricant or that using it was ok, why we might need to use it or what types we should use for specific activities.
Back to Durex, as you can probably gather from my previous paragraph, I never researched before using their lubricants. If I had, I probably would have just avoided them. I assumed in my innocence that they were the best brand because they were trusted and well-known, being sold everywhere for convenience. My question is how many people are there out there who have no idea how many other choices there are? For me personally, there’s much better options out there. Durex lubes seem to hinder my sex life more than aid it.
Why don’t they work for me? Well, they irritate me and they make my partner itch too. I should mention we both have sensitive skin, me in particular, so that might be why they don’t work for us. There is one lubricant in particular though, that I had a really bad reaction to and it put me off using their lubricants. That lubricant was the Play Tingle. It set my vagina on fire and I found myself crying in a freezing cold shower scrubbing myself raw. This experience really changed the way I viewed lubricant and was the catalyst for learning more about them. We also had a really bad experience using the Passion Fruit lubricant during intercourse, which just so happened to be my ‘official’ first time. It said it was fine to use for sex, but I now realise the sugars in it had irritated me and that’s what caused the burning that I had experienced.
Did I ever like their lubricants? I thought the Strawberry was the best tasting, it was still very artificial, but during the early stages of my relationship we did use this successfully for oral sex. I didn’t like the texture though. Another lubricant I didn’t mind at first was the Massage 2-in-1 Sensual one, I thought it was great in the beginning, until I discovered not all lubes are meant to be that sticky or dry out faster than you can thrust. We used it primarily for massage, but a month or so after my initial review, I realised there were specific massage oils that did the job much better. It wasn’t an awful lubricant, but we did have to shower straight after sex because it felt like we’d rolled in candy floss.
Would I recommend them? To someone like myself who has sensitive skin, isn’t keen on artificial flavours or wants to avoid Glycerin, no I wouldn’t. I do know plenty of people who do love their lubricants though, so it’s a try it and see for yourselves scenario. I gave the massage lubricant to my mother who actually does like to use it for massage, so it’s different strokes for different folks! If they ever change the formula, I’d give them another go, but I’d definitely be more cautious about it.