In the late months of 2015/early days of 2016, I decided that I wanted to improve the quality and shelf life of the products in my toybox and remove everything mediocre, low-quality and/or porous. So that’s exactly what I did. Tantus are the best in the business for well-made, body-safe products and naturally I was drawn to them for some of my first purchases. I absolutely loved my first choice, the Curve, so I decided to follow-up with the Charmer. A dildo with similar ridges along the side, albeit more defined, and a slightly slimmer shaft. I definitely made the right choice as I’m still obsessed with the Charmer over twelve months later.
The packaging was typical for Tantus products. A simple white and orange cardboard box with a see-through window in the front to view the toy. There’s a bunch of info about the brand on the back. Inside the box the Charmer is stored in some plastic casing. You do not get a storage bag with Tantus products, so make sure to get one of those separately to keep it safe from lint and other sex toys. I’ve had no issues letting my Tantus toys touch each other, but some retailers don’t recommend it.
As it’s manufactured by a company renowned for dedication to body-safety, you can be assured that their unique formula of ultra-premium, completely safe silicone has been used. It’s free from latex and phthalates, non-toxic, odourless and hypoallergenic. It can be bleached, boiled and placed in the dishwasher for through cleans and peace of mind. I usually wipe down with antibacterial cleaner or a 10% bleach solution for everyday cleaning, but as this is textured I do like to place it in the dishwasher once a month for a deeper clean. This is particularly important if you’re switching between partners and/or orifices.
Lube wise, I’d recommend sticking to water-based. If you prefer using hybrids then I’d recommend doing a patch test on the base first to be sure that it doesn’t degrade the silicone. I’ve had no issues with Sliquid Organics Silk but I don’t want to use it on this too much.
The silicone used for the Charmer has a glossy finish, rather than the matte finish of the Curve, so it has less drag to it. I would still suggest using a good coating of lubricant especially if you’re new to texture or plan to use this for anal play. I personally didn’t need a lot as this toy is within my ideal dimensions with a 3.75 inch circumference and a usable length of six and a half inches.
When I read through the product description, I was excited to see the Tantus Charmer described as firm as that is what works for my g-spot. It definitely does feel firm out of the box, but there is a minute amount of squish to the lower portion of the shaft. It’s small, but enough to stop the toy from being completely rigid and harsh. Due to this I was not expecting flexibility, but that’s what I got. I can make the head touch the base with some pressure, which is great news for those who may need to adjust the angle or positioning for comfortable use.
Although there were all these great things going for it, I couldn’t help but feel underwhelmed when it first arrived. I felt that the four ridges across the shaft look less intense in person and I still stand by that now. The photos make them look more pointed and defined, but in reality they are more like soft, rounded bumps attached to the shaft.
They are nowhere near as harsh as the Tsunami’s waves, but they are more noticeable than those lines on the Curve. It’s the perfect medium really. I proceeded with insertion despite my initial reservations and was met with the shock of a lifetime as the ridges pulled, pushed, bumped and grinded up against my g-spot with each thrust.
In order to feel all of the benefits that the Charmer offers, thrusting is essential. I don’t mean the super hard, intense, fuck-me-quickly thrusting, but the kind where a gentle rocking back and forth or game of tug of war with your motions is used. So, in, out and repeat basically. The Charmer doesn’t really work as a furious thruster because it’s quite slimline and flexible which makes those movements difficult. It also stops the ridges from maintaining pressure on the g-spot, which is not what I want. I think this is a toy that has been designed with the idea of users taking their time. It’s a lie back, relax and thrust gently until it pushes you into orgasmic oblivion sort of toy.
I have not been able to squirt with the Charmer, as I can with the less intense but wider Curve, but I don’t feel that I need to in order to enjoy this toy. It’s my preference for g-spot toys, but it’s not essential. I genuinely like the stimulation this toy provides as is. I personally would not have minded a larger girth for two reasons. 1) I do like a full feeling. I don’t want to be stretched as such, but full is satisfying. 2) I could have then rotated the toy in order for the ridges to rub against the internal walls. As it currently is, the shaft is only wide enough to target the specific g-spot area. It doesn’t really stimulate the sides at all. I feel like those ridges would provide a divine internal massage, although it might have been too much for some with double the pleasure going on.
Overall, I feel like this dildo takes a relaxed, laid-back approach to sexual satisfaction. It’s a toy that’s meant to be savoured and enjoyed, rather than being raced to the finish line for a quick fix. If you’re looking for that reliable quick-release dildo, your search is not over. The Charmer is absolutely perfect for getting to know your body with, particularly if the g-spot is new to you, and is great for determining how much pressure and texture you like. It’s ideal for lazy masturbation sessions with no time frame and wonderful for warm-ups to something more intense like the Bound or Tsunami.
You can purchase the Tantus Charmer (£36.99) from Lovehoney. Some affiliate links have been used in this post.