The term “couples vibrator” is one that sparks a lot of debate on social media, forums and blogs but for the purpose of this review I will be using it. I’m not overly fond of this term myself, but it’s true that the Partner has been designed with two users in mind. Some people may say that it has been created for a straight partnership to use but anyone who has a vulva, clitoris and a partner who can penetrate them could make this toy work.
I haven’t tried many of these couple-style vibrators, but I was interested in this one because of its entry-level price tag. Not everybody can afford to fork out on a We-Vibe Sync or a Lelo Ida, so I hoped that at least one of the Partner models would be a good, affordable alternative. The Partner range is made by the same folks who own Satisfyer, so I wondered whether the brands success would carry over into this new category of sex toys. Read on to find out whether it was a winning decision or mission impossible…
The Partner arrived in a white and purple cardboard box that had product shots on the front and back. The images were tasteful and I feel that helps give this product a welcoming, non-intimidating vibe to those who may be new to sex toys or tools that can be used within their pairing. The box lists some of the key features on the sides, such as the number of functions, materials used and the fact that it’s waterproof. Inside the box I found the vibrator, charging cable and multi-lingual user manual. There’s no storage bag which is a small disappointment, but it was expected from me after trying the Satisfyer models.
Made from smooth, velvety soft silicone and complimented with abs plastic, there’s no need to worry about this toy being toxic or porous. Both materials used are odourless, latex/phthalate free, easily cleaned and completely body safe. I had expected the silicone of this vibrator to be quite draggy but I didn’t notice much of this during use. There’s some of course, as it is silicone, but nowhere near as much as I anticipated. The brand recommend using a coating of water-based lube on the internal arm, but I’d add a touch to the external area that rests on the clitoris too for maximum comfort. Following use, simply clean with soapy water and leave to dry for next time.
Charging is a breeze. It has a USB connector at one end to go into a suitable port and a magnetic connector at the other end which attaches to the two prongs on the front of the vibrator. The control panel will flash blue whilst charging and turn solid when complete. The manual advises that the first charge could take up to eight hours, but ours came with some juice so it only took about three and a half. Each additional charge has taken roughly two hours and has lasted for just over/under one hour each time. This isn’t bad, but only lasts us two uses per charge.
There is one singular button on the Partner, which is located on the front of the external arm, and this controls everything. To turn it on, press and hold this button for a few seconds and the control panel will then light up and the vibrations will begin. Tap to cycle through the various functions and press and hold again to turn off. If you miss the setting that you wanted you have to scroll back through all ten to get back to it, which can be frustrating, but as this is an entry-level model that’s not very wide, I can see why no other buttons were added to make this possible.
One aspect of this vibrator that confused me was the order of the settings. The manual says pressing and holding the button down for two seconds will start it at the lowest massage level but in my case, it didn’t. I don’t know if I got an odd one or whether the manual had a typo? Either way, starting at the highest intensity seems to be becoming increasingly popular in recent toy designs and it makes no sense to me. Most people who use a vibrating toy like to start at the bottom and work up to solid strength, not start on full and work their way back down.
For me however, I generally send my toys up to full power straight away so this wasn’t a huge issue, but I can see why it would annoy others who prefer to do the opposite. I’m a power queen and love rumbly vibrations, but it’s hard to find couples toys that have both strength and depth to them. The lowest setting on the Partner did have a low-pitched rumble to it, which was gratifying, but the other two speeds and the seven patterns were more on the buzzy spectrum. They were the sort of buzzy sensations that are just surface level, rather than the kind that feels like a wasp nest attacking the clitoris, so I can cope with them and even enjoy them when in the right mindset.
Flexibility was something that stood out to me when holding the Partner for the first time. I noticed that the internal arm was very flexible to the point that I could manipulate it into a straight shape similar to Mystery Vibe’s Crescendo. It also had a fair amount of squish to the silicone, which gave me the impression that I wouldn’t be able to maintain contact with the g-spot or stimulate it.
The internal arm is very slimline. It’s just under two inches in girth at the widest point which makes it perfect for beginners, those who don’t like to be stretched and vulva owners that have well-endowed partners. We tried one couples vibrator previously that had around five inches in length and width and it made it very difficult to accommodate the toy and my partner at the same time. I had no such issues with this Partner model.
I was worried that it wouldn’t be long enough to hit my g-spot as it only has an insertable length of around 2.7 inches, but it seems to be just about right. It may not be the correct positioning for everyone, but I can make it worth with my anatomy. Whilst it does hit the g-spot, I didn’t feel very stimulated by it for two reasons. The first being the lack of vibrations and the second being the lack of firmness. The internal arm on the Partner does not have a motor, so you only receive external vibrations from this model. If you want sensations from both arms, the Partner Plus might be more your thing.
I need intense pressure against my spot for me to feel stimulated and come close to orgasm and I couldn’t achieve that with the internal arm alone as it’s just too flexible. It was different when my partner got involved and inserted himself as his penis sort of pushed the arm up onto my erogenous zone and forced it to main contact and added a little bit of pressure because of his shaft continuously hitting the arm with each thrust. It made the arm bump and grind against me, which did feel good. Unfortunately though, it wasn’t enough to push me over the edge and give me an internal orgasm.
The classic U shape of this vibrator worked well for me. I had no problems getting the external arm to sit over my clitoris accurately and the internal arm was just about long enough. If I placed this in position and began having sex with my partner it wouldn’t take long for the vibrations to start taking me in the direction of an orgasm and that’s something I can appreciate. It doesn’t steal or force orgasms from me like the Satisfyer Pro 2 does, but it can get me off.
Overall, I think this couples vibrator could be classed as a success. It worked well for my partner and I, didn’t cause any uncomfortable poking once inserted for either of us and the quiet, external vibrations aren’t half bad. It would be a fantastic entry-level choice for someone new to couples vibrators or someone who doesn’t want to fork out over £100 on the We-Vibes and Lelo’s of the world. I also think it will be a popular choice for those who don’t want to use some of the girthier, bulkier options on the market. If you prefer firm internal stimulation, girth or texture then this may not be right for you, but if you like the complete opposite, I’d recommend giving the Partner a chance.