Okay, so it can be a hard territory to navigate for those fresh to anal play, or those curious to try it. Especially for males, in their daily lives, it is sometimes difficult to obtain the confidence and acceptance necessary to attempt something deemed tabu. The reality is, NATURAL AND PLEASURABLE IS COMPLETE! I myself felt like you in my early years of being sexually active, clueless about how to approach it and afraid to even try it. I’ve actually learned to climax quicker with anal penetration after overcoming that fear. I will explain in this document what is anal play, distinct types of its’, some advice on masculine and female anal play, and some popular myths related to anal play.

Okay, what precisely is anal play?

Simply put, any sexual activity involving your tush, including fingering, fisting, pegging, and penetration, is anal play. (I’m going to explain further down what these mean). These actions can be carried out in any direction for men and women. They can be performed on your own or with a partner.

Fingering & Fisting

fingering or starting plugs is a great way to introduce yourself to anal play. Because both are thinner in diameter, it provides you the opportunity to experience on a larger scale what it would feel like. You should begin slowly when fingering any portion of the body, insert one finger gently, and then move back slowly with plenty of lube. You can improve the size of the plug or the number of fingers you insert as you feel more comfortable. This leads us to fisting as well. Only with plenty of lube should this be performed, and with someone who has been prepared. You can’t skip from nothing to fist, just as without training you can’t expect to run a marathon, it just doesn’t function.


Rimming, throwing salad, analingus, they’re all about oral anal sex. The region should be washed and your partner can then continue with their lips or tongue to orally stimulate the anus. The necessary method is very comparable to going down on a woman.


Pegging is when the anus is penetrated by a woman using a strap. You must purchase a strap on harness first of all, of course, and a dildo that suits the harness and is the correct size for your partner. For this reason, I strongly suggest purchasing a silicone dildo because they are non-porous and easy to clean. Buying a cheaper jelly or PVC toy can contain damaging chemicals and can’t be sterilized in its entirety.


Pegging also falls within this subject, but is more specifically when a male penetrates with his penis into another male or woman. This is best done when you’re already warmed up, relaxed and comfortable. Again, use generous quantities of lubrication to start slowly and work together to experience amazing things. Don’t be fooled by porno’s where the first second seems to go hardcore, that’s what fluffers are for;)

There’s another form called prostate massage that you might have seen in some recent comedies that came out. This should only be performed if your masculine partner is comfortable and you are experienced in fingering. It can be a excellent way to avoid prostate cancer and, when done properly, boost the quantity of semen it generates.


if a straight man is involved in anal sex, he will either leave you to a person or question his sexuality. This is so far from the reality that as a problem it should be banned. A straight male with anal sex doesn’t make him homosexual, and it’s just another crazy way to get him on. Assuming or accusing your partner of being homosexual for trying something fresh will cause them to be sexually more self-conscious and may cause greater problems. Lastly, there’s nothing wrong with being gay or bi, but you don’t have to shoot something up your ass that defines your sexual preferences.

It’s going to hurt / if it hurts the first time it’s going to hurt. Anal sex will generally only harm if it is performed incorrectly, just like vaginal sex. Like i’ve said earlier, it almost never causes pain when you start small and work your way up. Try to go slower, a smaller toy, or more lube if it hurts. If it still feels awkward, or you just appreciate it, that’s okay, keep up with your ordinary routine.

It will cause physical harm or extend my anus. First, there may be tears. They may also occur during vaginal sex, though. The prevalent cause of sexual injury is either overdoing it or under lubricating, both of which can be rectified merely by knowing what is going on and beginning slowly. Second, you’ll be the first to understand the incredible capacities of vaginal opening for those of you with kids. That came back to the correct normal? Some females or males may believe that the “loosening†is triggered by learning to relax with your muscles.

Ewww, your ass is so filthy, why are you going to bring up anything? Well, women and gents’ have very little fecal matter, the reality is your anus. Yes, there are microscopic bacteria, so you shouldn’t go to any other hole in your body without first cleaning, but not as gross as you’d think. enema’s do a fast job of cleaning the region if you want to get extremely clean.


  • Add other types of stimulation to the blend to boost enjoyment. Not all women by themselves climax from anal stimulation. Rub your nipples, double the penetration or massage your clittorus, there are infinite opportunities
  • For males too, rubbing their penis or balls can contribute to their experience. Fun fact: a “rusty trombone†is known as rimming your male partner while jerking him off. (See how much we’re are learning today)
  • Don’t let your partner (or yourself, if you’re playing alone) use the same finger to finger various holes. The same applies to anything in your body that passes. For proper sanitation, keep cleaners and wipes handy.
  • Remember to breathe and relax. The more hesitant you are, the more you clench your muscles, and then nothing gets in there. Trust your partner and have confidence in yourself.
  • Before sexual activity, lightly clean the region around your anus. You don’t have to do anything outrageous, it’s enough to have a simple pass with a wet wipe.
  • There’s no such thing as “to muchâ€including lube. The more the sweetheart! Apply as needed and apply to both the toy / penis / etc and the anus to ensure a pleasant experience.
  • If you use a toy make sure it has a base at the bottom, there’s something you Don’t want to lose.
  • Make sure you communicate what you want and are all right, and Don’t feel compelled to attempt something that you Don’t find pleasurable.
  • You can still get an STI / STD from anal sex, so remember to use a condom if you don’t trust your partner.

If after all, you’ve relaxed, tried toys, fingers, rubbing, and so on, and you Don’t still find it pleasurable, that’s fine. You should know if this is something you want to pursue in your daily sex life after the first couple of times.

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